This blog comes after a long pondering on the events of my life and others surrounding my ecosystem or had once inhabited it at some point of my life .
As I witness a lot of my school/college friends being hitched in the vows of marriage these days ,a question keeps popping up "why so soon " ? They are still my age and there seems to be no hurry or a speck of anything conspiring in that direction for myself . To be honest, it wasn't more of a question ,but a kind of mockery because I as an individual has never believed(understood) in the institution of marriage and every single marriage of a close-one gives me a more so reason to question my belief for the good .So I just decided to ponder over things (tend to do that a lot ).
I looked at images of some of the newly wed brides and grooms(sorry for stalking) from their marriage and I noticed a very common thing amongst all . It was not the excitement of being a groom or a bride ,or the joy of families coming together and not even the happiness of taking one step into adulthood.. This was something different,one that can only be gauged from their expressions and their body-language,"Accomplishment" and "Tranquillity". I could see it in their eyes .It was not a boastful or an arrogant bearing ,it was more satisfaction and a sense of getting everything that they ever wanted . They had found "Love ".George Sand once said "There is only one happiness in this life , to love and to be loved " . They had found the "one happiness " in life , someone to love and someone to be loved from, for their entire life .
At this point pf life we all are hatefully chasing money, changing jobs , hearing shit from our bosses, attending meetings , licking and backscratching for appraisals ,eating unhealthy foods , living with unknown people in a p.g (cause its cheaper ) and bearing their qualms and finally mulling over what dreams we had and what life has thrown us into and even shed a tear or two occasionally . But why are we doing it ,who are we doing it for .Definitely not for ourselves ,cause then we all would have been chasing our dreams rather than stuck in a soul-sucking corporate world. Its the wait . The wait for things to change .The wait to find that "one happiness" that changes it all .Once you find it , though all will be the same , but it wont be the same.All that fight you have put in their seems trivial and worth-it for the new love that you find it in their .Martin Luther King once quoted "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
With all being said above its not true for all .Sometimes you love someone and that's what you desire for but you don't get it back .You know its the the only thing you want or the only one you can spent your life with ,but its not the other way around . You found someone to love but will not be loved . Its difficult to move on ,never quiet at heart and I have no answer for that (fellow sufferer).Honestly,you will be lucky to have that "one happiness" in life and lucky are those who get that .That's why its said I guess that "Matches are made in heaven " for they have ridden their luck to find the "one ".
So in the end I will like to say this to all the married couples out there(new or old )
Happy Married Life and congratulations on finding your "one happiness".Loads of Happiness .Keep setting new relationship goals and challenge my belief system . I have watched and learnt from you guys and hopefully will continue doing so.And one last few nugget of words for you all
"Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. "
Now everyone single go slog ,for your "Love" is around the corner.
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