I graduated in July this year . Last day of the college and a sense of doom engulfed my pedestrian mind , I was about be a "grown-up" in the proverbial"real world".When I was in college, I probably felt like it was never going to end. I felt untouchable, invincible, that I could do anything I wanted , and then everything changed .
Suddenly all my friends are dispersed across the country and my new best friend is my computer.
The colors of friendship have started fading away.No more late night calls(rather no calls), hangouts ,con-calls or messages with your friends . You get to know their recent activities ,like movies or dinners or expeditions ,on Facebook , that too if they are generous enough to let the world know what they are up-to (sarcasm).The laws of social sites baffle me .And why wont they ,after all I fail to understand how people get time to post "Check-ins " and yet claim to have not a minute to "check-about " their so called "friends".
In my office, I'm surrounded by enlightened and engaging individuals. But I've been miserable. I've been hopelessly and unrelentingly miserable.I thought that I'd succumbed to that societal myth about the millennial generation--ungrateful, easily distracted, cynical...you know, all the wonderful things!
However, the deeper issue is one that so many face. We might think the source is our job. Though it might be, it most likely is not. We all get stuck in the past, trying to recreate the comforts and assuredness of occurrences best left for younger years. College is wonderful. It's unlike anything else you'll ever experience in your life. One of the most imperative things that college teaches us to inherently do is to connect to other people. It seems as soon as we graduate, we forget that. It's one of the best lessons we can garner.
20-somethings are genetically conditioned to be perpetually unhappy. Especially when they just left the most untamed period of their lives. We're still looking for the next hopping party, awesome new person or recent iteration of the iPhone. Until we find it, the blues will ensue.We are not supposed to have a life plan affixed to one unyielding path yet. If nothing else, it's better to figure out what we don't want to be doing.We made friends in college for a reason. We need to talk to them. Graduation doesn't mean they no longer exist. Skype is a thing. Use it with relish.
We don't have to answer all of life's questions. Getting a job, an apartment & paying our own bills means that we have steady employment and decent credit. Nothing more. Nothing less. We don't have to have all of the answers. our life will be more fulfilling if we spend it questioning things rather than seeking answers to everything.
Yes I'm 23. Yes I'm employed. Will I be in this same position a year from now? Only the universe knows. The point is this: We are given but a short time on this earth. Don't waste it. Connect to others. Experience life. If you're not feeling completely fulfilled at this point and juncture, then that's perfectly fine. We're not supposed to. We simply don't know enough about life or ourselves for that matter. Calm down and go meet someone new over a glass of wine. That's how you truly make society better. That's how you beat the miserable.
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